Hyperemesis and a high-risk pregnancy taught me to ask for what I need at work
Good morning, Broadsheet readers! Condé Nast employees are unionizing, Canada achieves a childcare victory, and a high-risk pregnancy taught one journalist to ask for what she needs at work. Have a great Wednesday.
Today’s guest essay comes to us from Fortune editorial director Rachel Lobdell. Rachel, who has been a Fortune newsroom leader for two-and-a-half years, is pregnant with her first child. A few weeks ago, she shared on Instagram that she’s been battling hyperemesis—a deleterious condition that affects nearly every aspect of her daily life, including her work. I (Emma here!) asked her to share her experience for the Broadsheet. Now, from Rachel:
– Growing, not glowing. “At least the baby is doing well!”
I cannot tell you how many times I have heard this proclamation from well-meaning friends, family members, and colleagues. I’m 22 weeks into a high-risk pregnancy, and I’ve run the gamut of complications: a placenta hemorrhage that landed me on bed rest for four weeks, a shortened cervix that puts me at high risk for a premature birth, and, most notably, hyperemesis gravidarium, a severe form of nausea and vomiting during pregnancy.
You might have heard of hyperemesis from Kate Middleton or Amy Schumer. The condition affects 1% to 3% of pregnant people and about 20% of patients experience the condition for their entire pregnancy. Hyperemesis goes far beyond traditional morning sickness. My nausea is near constant; I often feel like I’ve had one too many sweet cocktails and I’ll feel better if I vomit (spoiler: I won’t). In my first trimester, I lost 18 pounds from vomiting, and I was hospitalized multiple times due to dehydration and malnourishment. The key issue is that the condition doesn’t stop when morning sickness typically does. I’ve had just one day in the last five months when I didn’t vomit.
My nausea and vomiting completely control my life, but it’s worse in the early morning, so I now work a shortened schedule where I log on between 10 and 11 a.m. I’m extra efficient, and I get just as much done despite a truncated schedule. I limit my number of meetings per day, and I do most of my work while lying down. Pre-pandemic, I was in the office every day from 8 a.m. to 6 p.m. without fail, and I had no desire to work remotely; during the pandemic, but before my pregnancy, I routinely worked 10-plus hour days.
The last two years have shown not only our bosses, but ourselves, what other work arrangements can look and feel like. I had already proven to myself and others that I could excel in a nontraditional environment, and that helped when it came time to ask for adjustments this year. My body reminds me daily how necessary doing so is: Push myself too much, and I’ll get really sick.
My baby has continued to thrive and grow throughout all of this, but let me be clear: While I am thrilled my baby is doing well, I am not. That dichotomy evokes a feeling many of us have felt often both personally and professionally. Sure, that project went out on time, but the process was a nightmare. Getting a new title is great, but it didn’t come with the salary raise I deserve. My boss asked for a 5:30 p.m. phone call yet again. It all boils down to this: does my experience matter?
Before my pregnancy, I would have said that sacrificing my personal experience for a gold star at work was worth it. But I’m now forced to acknowledge that my experience along the way does matter. Still, asking for fertility- and pregnancy-related accommodations can be especially fraught.
I encountered complications before I felt ready to share something so personal. It became clear when I was around eight weeks pregnant that I was no longer able to work a full schedule. I crafted an email, read it at least 42 times, and nervously hit send. Even though I was confident that I could contribute to the team with a nontraditional schedule, it wasn’t easy to be so vulnerable with my bosses. I wasn’t comfortable, but writing that message was good practice in putting my family and health first.
My experience can offer some lessons to others in similar situations. Since we don’t talk enough about fertility and pregnancy as a society, not to mention in corporate America, there’s often an element of education needed. If you end up with hyperemesis, you’ll likely need to explain your condition to higher-ups. Be sure to note how it affects you specifically—pregnant people can have varying experiences—and the accommodations needed.
I have about four months left in this pregnancy, and it wouldn’t surprise me if a few more curveballs are thrown my way. But just as a fetus knows to take nutrients from a mother, even when there aren’t enough to go around, I’m learning to ask for what I need. My experience, and yours, matters.
What about you, Broadsheet readers? Have you had to navigate a high-risk pregnancy—or ask for related accommodations —at work? What did the experience teach you about yourself, about your workplace, or about the support we provide—or fail to provide—parents-to-be? If you’d like to share your experience, send your thoughts to email@example.com. Your note may be featured in a future edition of the Broadsheet.
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Correction: Youn Yuh-jung, mentioned in Monday’s Broadsheet, presented at the Oscars in her capacity as an actor in the film Minari.
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