6 ways to handle rejection at work (without losing it)
MPW Insider is an online community where the biggest names in business and beyond answer timely career and leadership questions. Today’s answer for: How should every successful woman deal with rejection? is written by Donna Wiederkehr, CMO of Dentsu Aegis Network.
I believe the way a successful woman should handle rejection is identical to the way a successful man does–objectively. As CMO, I’m responsible for driving growth across a network of more than 22 marketing, media, and communication companies. This means that every day I face many different opportunities for success, and just as many chances for rejection. And I’ve learned that it’s not your successes or failures that define you as a businessperson, it’s what you make of them. Rejection is an amazing catalyst for evolution, and it’s as much a part of every good leader’s story as their successes. Here are some thoughts on how I encourage our teams to approach rejection:
Don’t let it define you
Fail fast and get over it. Remember that rejection is something that happens to everyone–even the most successful people. No one is perfect and that’s the beauty of it. Keep things in perspective and remember that you’re much more than a project–or even a career.
I believe that if you always succeed, you aren’t innovating or pushing the envelope. Consider your rejections and failures as successes that show you aren’t accepting the status quo as the best path. Celebrate trying to do something differently (or better) and the opportunity for growth.
Pause and assess
Is there a lesson to be learned? Every rejection is an opportunity to take a step back and genuinely assess if you’re on the right path project-wise, career-wise, or if there’s a better approach you could take next time you face a challenge.
Lead by example
Rejection is generally not about one person; it often impacts an entire team. In situations where a major client leaves an agency or an important pitch is rejected, the team looks to their leadership to get a sense of whether it’s a “disaster” or a moment to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again. Always choose the latter, not the former, and show your team how to handle rejection gracefully and move on.
Don’t hide it
Talk about your rejections with trusted advisors and mentors, as well as with the staff you lead. It gives you a chance to process the situation and get outside opinions on what you can do differently next time. It also sends the message to younger talent that rejection is a part of life that we all deal with, and that there is strength in honesty and accountability.
Recalibrate and try again
Rejection doesn’t mean that you’re done with the problem. Challenge yourself to find alternative approaches. Odds are you will find a stronger, more creative solution than you did originally.
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