• Home
  • News
  • Fortune 500
  • Tech
  • Finance
  • Leadership
  • Lifestyle
  • Rankings
  • Multimedia
Commentarymental health

Happy hour isn’t all smiles for everyone

By
Caroline Wong
Caroline Wong
Down Arrow Button Icon
By
Caroline Wong
Caroline Wong
Down Arrow Button Icon
February 1, 2022, 4:01 PM ET
Cocktails on display
Drinking culture is more entrenched in several industries. For example, more than 8% of IT workers are problem drinkers.In Pictures Ltd.- Corbis - Getty Images

When I started my career in tech, I was still drinking. I was surprised to see how many of my work environments revolved around alcohol. Important business conversations took place at happy hour.

We drank mimosas during all-staff meetings and began every Friday with Baileys-spiked coffee. At company events, executives walked around with trays of shots. After years of thinking this was perfectly normal behavior, I eventually realized that these alcohol-centric spaces were harmful to my physical and mental health.

I’m not alone: Nearly one out of every 10 IT professionals (8.64%) are problem drinkers, according to data from the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA).

Fast-forward: Today, I’m seven years sober and in a supportive and inclusive work environment. However, alcohol-laden work cultures are still alive and well. No matter how well-intentioned, social events that are meant to build camaraderie among coworkers can actually end up making some feel more isolated if they’re not able to take part in the festivities.

The proliferation of hybrid work has forced our society to rethink the way we approach every facet of our professional lives, from scheduling Zoom meetings across numerous time zones to welcoming toddlers’ and pet interruptions on work calls. So why shouldn’t we use hybrid work as a springboard to reimagine how to make team-building events more inclusive too?

According to the 2019 National Survey on Drug Use and Health, 14.5 million people aged 12 and older have alcohol use disorder. Recovering alcoholic or not, some people just don’t drink, and they shouldn’t be tasked with pretending their ginger ale is a glass of champagne if they don’t feel comfortable disclosing their circumstances.

If your company hosts regular happy hours, next month try thinking outside the box. Host a virtual cooking class, board game night, book club, or even juggling lessons. At Cobalt, we’ve done virtual talent shows, cookie decorating, and yoga sessions. The opportunities are endless. These activities can offer a sense of community and boost morale, without unintentionally isolating team members in the process.

Sometimes, group team-building activities can be awkward. Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to schedule separate meetings for forced social time!

Instead of hosting a happy hour, try encouraging your employees to log off early on Friday and use the time to do something they truly love, whatever that might be. On Monday, make time for the team to share what they spent their time doing. This will help coworkers get to know one another and give them the freedom to take advantage of one of the best perks remote work has to offer: using their time how they want to.

Or say you have a weekly team meeting. Spend the first five or 10 minutes on a fun icebreaker and rotate the person on the team who’s responsible for coming up with a fun exercise each week. I’ve also found great intimate conversations in one-to-one skip-level meetings, in which I meet with the folks who report to my managers. During those, I like to ask open-ended questions, actively listen as well as I can, and stay curious. I’ll ask things like, “What are the three best things going on for you at work right now?” and “What are the three things you would change if you could wave a magic wand and fix them?” More often than not, I learn something new or unexpected.

Workplace communication channels like Slack and Microsoft Teams are also great forums for helping employees connect about things that aren’t directly related to work. For example, at Cobalt, we have a #pets channel for pet lovers, and a #kids channel for parents. It never fails to brighten my day to see someone’s pet enjoying a snooze or my colleagues with their kids.

It’s 2022. There are so many ways for employees to get to know one another outside of old-school (or virtual) happy hours. By getting creative and making micro-adjustments to their current team-building activities, team leaders can create a truly inclusive corporate culture.

Remember, your employees are people first. Treat them with respect. Make them feel included. When they’re happy, your business will reap the benefits. Prioritizing inclusivity will boost morale, attract the best talent, increase retention, and make employees feel valued, not just as workers, but as people too. 

Caroline Wong is the Chief Strategy Officer at Cobalt.

Correction: A previous version of this article mistakenly referred to the author as Mia Vasser is the culture, diversity, and engagement program manager at CallRail. This is incorrect. We apologize due to the personal nature of the essay.

More must-read commentary published by Fortune:

  • Don’t let crypto mayhem spook retail investors
  • NYSE’s new leader on the three core beliefs that are guiding her
  • Arianna Huffington: It’s time to replace work-life balance with ‘life-work integration’
  • We need a radical new approach to tackle scientific misinformation online
  • Here’s the proof culture still comes first in the age of remote work

Never miss a story: Follow your favorite topics and authors to get a personalized email with the journalism that matters most to you.

About the Author
By Caroline Wong
See full bioRight Arrow Button Icon

Latest in Commentary

Steve Milton is the CEO of Chain, a culinary-led pop-culture experience company founded by B.J. Novak and backed by Studio Ramsay Global.
CommentaryFood and drink
Affordability isn’t enough. Fast-casual restaurants need a fandom-first approach
By Steve MiltonDecember 5, 2025
19 hours ago
Paul Atkins
CommentaryCorporate Governance
Turning public companies into private companies: the SEC’s retreat from transparency and accountability
By Andrew BeharDecember 5, 2025
19 hours ago
Matt Rogers
CommentaryInfrastructure
I built the first iPhone with Steve Jobs. The AI industry is at risk of repeating an early smartphone mistake
By Matt RogersDecember 4, 2025
2 days ago
Jerome Powell
CommentaryFederal Reserve
Fed officials like the mystique of being seen as financial technocrats, but it’s time to demystify the central bank
By Alexander William SalterDecember 4, 2025
2 days ago
Rakesh Kumar
CommentarySemiconductors
China does not need Nvidia chips in the AI war — export controls only pushed it to build its own AI machine
By Rakesh KumarDecember 3, 2025
3 days ago
Rochelle Witharana is Chief Financial and Investment Officer for The California Wellness Foundation
Commentarydiversity and inclusion
Fund managers from diverse backgrounds are delivering standout returns and the smart money is slowly starting to pay attention
By Rochelle WitharanaDecember 3, 2025
3 days ago

Most Popular

placeholder alt text
Economy
Two months into the new fiscal year and the U.S. government is already spending more than $10 billion a week servicing national debt
By Eleanor PringleDecember 4, 2025
2 days ago
placeholder alt text
Success
‘Godfather of AI’ says Bill Gates and Elon Musk are right about the future of work—but he predicts mass unemployment is on its way
By Preston ForeDecember 4, 2025
2 days ago
placeholder alt text
Success
Nearly 4 million new manufacturing jobs are coming to America as boomers retire—but it's the one trade job Gen Z doesn't want
By Emma BurleighDecember 4, 2025
2 days ago
placeholder alt text
Success
Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang admits he works 7 days a week, including holidays, in a constant 'state of anxiety' out of fear of going bankrupt
By Jessica CoacciDecember 4, 2025
2 days ago
placeholder alt text
Real Estate
‘There is no Mamdani effect’: Manhattan luxury home sales surge after mayoral election, undercutting predictions of doom and escape to Florida
By Sasha RogelbergDecember 4, 2025
2 days ago
placeholder alt text
Economy
Tariffs and the $38 trillion national debt: Kevin Hassett sees ’big reductions’ in deficit while Scott Bessent sees a ‘shrinking ice cube’
By Nick LichtenbergDecember 4, 2025
2 days ago
Rankings
  • 100 Best Companies
  • Fortune 500
  • Global 500
  • Fortune 500 Europe
  • Most Powerful Women
  • Future 50
  • World’s Most Admired Companies
  • See All Rankings
Sections
  • Finance
  • Leadership
  • Success
  • Tech
  • Asia
  • Europe
  • Environment
  • Fortune Crypto
  • Health
  • Retail
  • Lifestyle
  • Politics
  • Newsletters
  • Magazine
  • Features
  • Commentary
  • Mpw
  • CEO Initiative
  • Conferences
  • Personal Finance
  • Education
Customer Support
  • Frequently Asked Questions
  • Customer Service Portal
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms Of Use
  • Single Issues For Purchase
  • International Print
Commercial Services
  • Advertising
  • Fortune Brand Studio
  • Fortune Analytics
  • Fortune Conferences
  • Business Development
About Us
  • About Us
  • Editorial Calendar
  • Press Center
  • Work At Fortune
  • Diversity And Inclusion
  • Terms And Conditions
  • Site Map

© 2025 Fortune Media IP Limited. All Rights Reserved. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy | CA Notice at Collection and Privacy Notice | Do Not Sell/Share My Personal Information
FORTUNE is a trademark of Fortune Media IP Limited, registered in the U.S. and other countries. FORTUNE may receive compensation for some links to products and services on this website. Offers may be subject to change without notice.