MPW Insider is an online community where the biggest names in business and beyond answer timely career and leadership questions. Today’s answer for: Why is it important to have a mentor? is written by Gay Gaddis, CEO and founder of T3.
There are only two people in my life who can be completely honest with me: my mother and my husband. Coincidently, they are also both my best mentors. As tough as it is sometimes to hear the unvarnished truth, it could literally change your life (and career) for the better.
To find a mentor, you must be willing to give back. This is not a one-way street. Your mentor should value the time you spend together and learn from you as much as you learn from them. When seeking a mentor, be specific in your request about the amount of time you wish to spend with them. I have been asked many times to be a mentor, but have only accepted a select few mentees. Here’s my best advice for creating a successful mentorship:
Be persistent
Not to be confused with a pest, but people who can successfully argue their case will usually get my support–especially if they’re humorous and engaging. The best mentees are on time for our meetings and always respect my limits and time barriers.
Provide perspective
Whether you’re seeking support, new ideas, or industry insight be clear in your objectives–it will make the mentors role much easier. I also like to help my mentees assess their strengths and weaknesses so that they know when to ask for help and when to take charge.
Meet often
When meeting, both the mentor and mentee should come prepared. Meetings should be frequent enough to make a difference and allow time to discuss the criticism (or praise) you offer. Mainly, I feel my job as a mentor is to instill confidence–we all need it!
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