MPW Insider is an online community where the biggest names in business and beyond answer timely career and leadership questions. Today’s answer for: How should every successful woman deal with rejection? is written by Kathy Collins, CMO at H&R Block.
Dealing with rejection? First off, don’t consider it rejection. Instead, it’s simply someone else’s lost opportunity. Rejection is a one-sided state-of-mind — it clearly wasn’t meant to be. Okay — that’s what I tell my kids. Now, here’s what I will tell you.
Rejection is horrible. It feels lousy. You doubt everything you believed about yourself a day ago. Your ego is bruised and your heart hurts. Sometimes you may even try to convince yourself it was a stupid idea anyway. But, rejection is never the end. In fact, it’s usually a wake-up call. For me – either I was too comfortable, too confident, or too disengaged. However, the things I want are usually worth facing rejection for — they represent themselves as different opportunities. Often times, rejection helps filter out the things I thought I wanted or needed.
In the end, I have to admit that rejection has actually made me a better boss, mentor, and mother. With rejection comes humility, and with humility comes integrity and character. For instance, my 21-year-old daughter was a cheerleader throughout a majority of her high school career, until she got cut her senior year. She was devastated and couldn’t imagine going to school the next day. Of course, she did. And she went to the first football game of the season. When she came home that night, I asked her if she was okay. Her response? “I don’t think I ever liked cheering that much — I just liked wearing the cute skirt.”
So if you face rejection ask yourself, “is this truly something worth fighting for or did I just want to wear the cute skirt?”
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